That idea sounds so “douche” because I do still believe there is love in this relationship, but the fustration of the lack of sex ruins every single aspect of the rest of the relationship
My only problem with all of this is, I am a young guy and I would not like to see myself in 10 years, regreting all of I’ve been trough, and all of the time I’ve wasted, when I could’ve just moved on today. Either we do this for real, or we don’t do it at all.
Hello Mike, firstly happy belated birthday. I’ve read your posts and replies several times and I feel your pain, I understand. As you say there is lots of information on the web about this and you certainly aren’t alone. I often wonder what they do differently. In an attempt to understand I’ve read lots of articles and listened to lots of stuff on youtube and some women just don’t have a high sex drive, but that doesn’t answer why they have in the beginning of the relationship. Some articles state that when women enter long term relationships they subconsciously begin the roll of ‘caretaker’ of their man and subconsciously move to a more ‘mothering’ role so then a sexual relationship feels incestual. The top and bottom of all of this is that as you say you are too young to be feeling this way and why should you have to adapt your needs. Only you can decide your next move. I used to believe in soul mates but I think people come in and out of our lives for many reasons. I’m not greatly religious but perhaps you could ask a greater power, whatever form that may take for you to help you find a way. Regards Steve.
Hello Mr. Steve, Here we are, almoust 2 years later, and everything changed ! Unfortunatelly, it’s even worse than before. Somehow I still manage to keep my spirit up, but it is extremely dificult to do so, when your house is on fire. We’ve had sex once this year, and it was extremely awkward. She complained about everything I did and tried, despite being an extremely normal intercouse ( nothing weird ). Since then, we barely talk, when we do we tend to argue, which I avoid because there is no point in having a discussion about whos fault it is that it’s rainning or w/e. Literally have no clue what to do, I’ve used all my tricks, prayed to all of the Gods, and I’ve reached 30 years old, I want a family and a life, and I don’t see myself with her doing that ( at least to have kids you need to have sex, or so I’ve been told ), but I don’t want to be the guy that breaks up with a girl just because they don’t have sex. We had a huge conversation. like we usually do after 4-5 months of not having sex and I reach my breaking point, and I told her everything I felt, and asked her how she felt and if she wanted to keep going or not. She said yes and that she would make an effort, but somehow deep inside I don’t know if we’ve reache the point of no return. We can’t go from 80 to 8 and back to 80 again. She talks about kids, buying a home, then “refuses” to behave like a couple when it comes to sex and it has only been 5 years, I won’t make it trought a life time of a no sex policy. How do we know enough is enough ? I am not trying to find reasons to break uo, neither I’m looking for a way that won’t make me feel bad about breaking up with her just because of the sex ( or the lack of it ) but at this point, I’ve tried it all, nothing worked, and we can’t keep wasting our precious time in this Earth constantly feeling depressed and neglected. May I ask for your opinion please ?